Despite the plot holes I will make an effort and answer one of the hottest unanswered questions: How did Rj get the list even before Jane?

Well, I have an idea.
It consists by two parts, two tricks if you would like by Red John.
1st) RJ fakes Lorelei's death (there are more than enough clues to support this theory).
2nd)
If you can remember, Jane's "place" was at the roof of CBI , a little
room and a big window at the one side.Plus Jane's board could easily
been seen by outside with binoculars.So we can assume that RJ was
watching from the outside the board and, when Jane finished the list, he
made the dvd with Lorelei.